Will heaven be different for you and me?
The truth is that every human being is a unique creation of God. In all of human existence there never has been and never will be another you. You are truly unique, and it is your unique qualities that are measured by others in relation to themselves. Success or failure, rich or poor, genius or idiot, tall or short, thin or fat, beautiful or ugly, male or female, good or bad, on and on; we are judged and placed somewhere on a continuum in every conceivable measurable way and that ultimately defines who you are as a human being and your perceived human value to the rest of humanity.
But that isn’t how God sees it. God sees each and every person as His creation. He has created each of us with a body and a soul and He has a unique, one-on-one relationship with each one of us. God does not compare you to me or to any other human being. He judges you on how well you use or fail to use the unique gifts He has given you. Use your gifts well and yours will be the Kingdom of Heaven; use them unwisely or poorly, use your imagination.
The essential element to understanding heaven can be found in the Catechism where it defines heaven as “This perfect life with the Most Holy Trinity—this communion of life and love with the Trinity, with the Virgin Mary, the angels and all the blessed—is called ‘heaven.’ Heaven is the ultimate end and fulfillment of the deepest human longings, the state of supreme, definitive happiness” [CCC 1024].
An excellent article on the Church’s heavenly teachings, The Hitchhiker’s Guide to Heaven written by Jimmy Akin in the July/August 2013 edition of Catholic Answers magazine says this in answer to the question posed earlier: “The core insight behind the depictions of multilayered heavens is that heaven is not a single state in which all saints and angels are equal and all people receive the same reward. It’s more complex than that.”
Prior to becoming Pope Benedict XVI, then Joseph Cardinal Ratzinger wrote “The Scholastics took these insights further and gave them systematic form. Drawing, in part, on extremely venerable traditions, they spoke of the special ‘crowns’ of martyrs, virgins, and doctors. Today, we are rather more circumspect where such assertions are concerned. It is sufficient to know that God gives each and every person his fulfillment in a way peculiar to this or that individual, and that in this way each and all receive to the uttermost” [Eschatology, 236].
No one can say with absolute confidence what is the nature of heaven; only that it will be peculiar to each of us and that for each of us it will be the uttermost.