My Thoughts

More than a decade ago, I received sage advice which I have never forgotten but too often fail to remember. It is short and sweet but worth every letter—of which there are but two—and that is the simple word “N-O”. “Just say no.” How hard is that? And yet, so many of us hesitate out of fear of hurting someone’s feelings or what? Being cancelled? Or is it mere ambivalence? “You know, it is just not my problem.” When fear prevents us from just saying no, we accept a burden, a debt we did not incur of our own volition; we indenture our time and energy to the will of another.

That is not to say the only answer must be “no” under every circumstance. It most certainly is not, nor should it be. But used with judiciousness and forethought, “no” is succinctly liberating. Sometimes, even more often than we might think it so, it is the right thing, the only thing that should be said.

Think about it. It is just a simple request, it won’t take much of my time, why not say yes and go along to get along? The problem is, there will soon be another “simple request” and then another and another. Next thing you know, your time is no longer your own, “no rest for the wicked” you say to yourself, never stopping to consider that there can be “no time for the good of my soul, my spirit, or myself.” Without the time to think, to take in new ideas and consider options and alternative ideas, you are, in truth, saying yes to indentured servitude of the mind, you are accepting the legitimacy of the “thought police” to tell you what you must and must not think. And the truth is, to not say no is the same as saying yes. “Silence in the face of evil is itself evil. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.”[1]

One example (there are many) that testifies to this implied “yes” is the sudden multitude claiming “gender dysphoria” concomitant with trans conceit. Folks, gender dysphoria is a scam elevated and promoted by an overly confused and extremely dissatisfied vocal minority who need help, not transgender (an oxymoronic euphemism if ever there was one) mutilation. “Dysphoria” is, by definition, a state of unease or generalized dissatisfaction with life. Dysphoria is not a mental health issue. Honesty must admit that most, if not every human who has ever lived, has at some point in their life experienced dysphoria; it is a part of the human condition. If you are not in the slightest uneasy or dissatisfied with your life, the current state of the country, or the world then you truly have a serious mental problem and need to see a professional as soon as possible.

As for “gender”, gender is genetic, an immutable fact of the human corpus; the soul, the human spirit has no gender. Dissatisfaction with one’s immutable gender is understandable but not mutable, no matter how dissatisfied one might be. Herein lies the truth: your dysphoria is yours, and yours alone. The euphoria others experience at being themselves is not an indictment nor is it evidence of transphobia or antipathy toward your self-dissatisfaction. My no is not a personal attack; it is an honest response to your demand to accept as normal, the abnormal. Transgenderism is not normal, it will never be normal, and no amount of wailing and gnashing of teeth will turn wine vinegar into Dom Pérignon. For those who wish to believe and pretend they are what they clearly are not, it is a free country; do as you wish, just don’t ask for permission or acceptance of your neuroses by those who see reality otherwise.

The point of all this is this: the silent majority in America has been silent for far too long and their silence has been heard by a miniscule vocal minority as a yes, a head nod to their radical agenda, their socialist narrative, and their anti-American dystopian assault on our preferred way of life. The silent majority, Americans through and through, have simply forgotten how to say “NO”. It must be said, it must be said with conviction, it must be said loudly and often.

Just my thoughts for a Wednesday for what it is worth.


[1] Dietrich Bonhoeffer, 1906-1945.

About the author: Deacon Chuck

Deacon Chuck was ordained into the permanent diaconate on September 17, 2011, in the ministry of service to the Diocese of Reno and assigned to St. Albert the Great Catholic Community. He currently serves as the parish bulletin editor and website administrator. Deacon Chuck continues to serve the parish of Saint Albert the Great Catholic Community of the Diocese of Reno, Nevada. He is the Director of Adult Faith Formation and Homebound Ministries for the parish, conducts frequent adult faith formation workshops, and is a regular homilist. He currently serves as the bulletin editor for the parish bulletin. He writes a weekly column intended to encompass a broad landscape of thoughts and ideas on matters of theology, faith, morals, teachings of the magisterium and the Catholic Church; they are meant to illuminate, illustrate, and catechize the readers and now number more than 230 articles. His latest endeavor is "Colloqui: A journal for restless minds", a weekly journal of about 8 pages similar in content to bulletin reflections. All his reflections, homilies, commentaries, and Colloqui are posted and can be found on his website: http://deaconscorner.org. Comments are always welcome and appreciated. He is the author of two books: "The Voices of God: hearing God in the silence" which offers the reader insights into how to hear God’s voice through all of the noise that surrounds us; and "Echoes of Love: Effervescent Memories" which through a combination of prose and verse provides the reader with a wonderful journey on the way to discovering forever love. He regularly speaks to groups of all ages and size and would welcome the opportunity to speak to your group.

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